Love, Trust, and Letting Go : A Yogi’s Path to Connection

We often talk about boundaries—how much to give, how to protect ourselves from being taken for granted. But what if, instead of shielding ourselves, we trusted love a little more? What if we allowed it to be imperfect, unguarded, and fully felt? We've been conditioned to believe that too much love makes us weak, vulnerable, easy to hurt. But maybe it’s the opposite. Maybe withholding love is what truly weakens us.
When was the last time you loved someone without hesitation? Without wondering if they felt the same? Without holding back a piece of yourself, just in case? What if love was never about safety, but about surrender? What if it wasn’t about ensuring someone stays, but trusting that even if they don’t, you are still whole?

Love is not meant to complete us—it is meant to remind us that we were never incomplete to begin with. It is an energy, a force that moves through us, shapes us, sometimes even breaks us, so we can grow into something truer. And yet, we spend so much time misunderstanding it.

When I was younger, I thought love was supposed to be effortless, a fairytale where everything falls into place. But as I grew older, I realized love isn’t a perfect script. It’s unpredictable, raw, exhausting at times. And yet, we keep returning to it, because deep down, we know it is the closest thing we have to the divine.
Love isn’t transactional. It’s not about keeping score—who loves more, who gives more, who sacrifices more. Real love isn’t measured; it simply exists in the space between expectation and reality, between what we thought it should be and how it actually unfolds.

This applies not just to romantic love, but to the love we share with family and friends. Love thrives not in conditions but in the freedom to be. Yet, the relationships we hold dearest are often the hardest to navigate. Why? Because those closest to us reflect back our deepest insecurities, our unresolved wounds. A stranger’s words may sting, but the same words from a loved one can leave scars.
And this is where the real work begins—not in molding love to fit a certain image, but in understanding our own reactions, expectations, and fears. Why do we push love away even when we crave it? Why do we demand love in certain ways rather than allowing it to flow naturally?

Sadhguru shares a story that captures the essence of love beautifully. When he first met his wife, Vijji, their connection was undeniable. Their relationship was not about grand romantic gestures but about shared moments, deep respect, and an unspoken understanding. She traveled with him, supported his vision, and stood beside him in ways that didn’t conform to conventional ideas of love. Their story reminds us that love is not about fitting into society’s mold but about finding harmony and joy in each other’s presence. (isha.sadhguru.org)

But sometimes, love, no matter how strong, doesn’t work the way we expect. And when that happens, it’s time to turn inward. People often say, “My partner hasn’t changed, but I have evolved.” But how can that be? Change is inevitable. Everyone grows in their own way, at their own pace.

Many of us feel stifled in our families not because there isn’t love, but because we are not fully seen for who we are. We leave home not because we don’t love our parents, but because we need the freedom to discover ourselves. And when we step away, stumble, and learn, we see that love was always there—it just needed space to breathe.

So, in the end, it is not love that is missing; it is acceptance. True love is not about control or expectations. The soul is free, and nobody wants to be bound by rules of how love should look.

So today, choose to be that acceptance. For your partner. For your family. For your friends. Place your trust in love, and know that even if pain comes, you will have the peace of knowing you gave your love freely. Sometimes, the most loving thing you can do is let go.

Let love be light. Let it be free. Let it be strong enough to hold space for someone without needing them to be anything other than themselves. Love, not for what you receive, but for the energy you bring to the world.

Trust in love. Trust in yourself. And if the time comes to walk away, do so knowing you gave everything you could, that you loved with the fullness of your being, and that no matter where life takes you, love will always be the energy that carries you home.

Because in the end, we don’t enter relationships because someone loves us—we do it because we say, 'I love you.' And if we choose whom to love, can we not also choose to keep loving, without constantly defining it, without forcing it into shapes, sizes, and molds? Love is not expecting the 'ideal' but being the 'ideal yourself first. Flow!