The Overflowing Cup: A Conversation on Self-Love and Purpose.

Let’s be honest—whenever we do something, there’s almost always an expectation attached. Even when we do something nice, somewhere in the back of our minds, we’re thinking, ‘How does this benefit me?’ Maybe it’s wanting better attention from a partner, more love, a little extra appreciation. Or at work, it could be a better position, a raise, or just wanting to be seen. Everything becomes a transaction, a silent tally of effort versus reward.

But what if the whole point wasn’t about getting something back? What if the act itself was the purpose, and the outcome was already taken care of?

That sounds absurd, right? Like, what’s the point of working hard if you don’t know what you’re getting? But that’s exactly the paradox. The less you obsess over the result, the more things flow in ways you never imagined.

There’s an old story in the Vedas about a conversation between Krishna and Arjuna. Arjuna was stuck—afraid to take action because he didn’t want to face the consequences. He was tangled in thoughts like, ‘What if I fail? What if things don’t turn out how I want? What if I lose what I love?’ Krishna simply told him—act. Do what’s right, do what aligns with your soul, and stop worrying about what comes next. The universe has already sorted that out. Your job is to do, not to calculate. That’s where real power lies.

And that’s exactly what self-love is. It’s not about external rewards; it’s about that deep-rooted belief that you’re taken care of. That your needs, your dreams, your purpose—they’re already in motion, already being met in ways you can’t even comprehend. The moment you stop clinging to ‘I want’ or ‘I need’ and trust that everything is unfolding exactly as it should, you become free.

This changes everything. You stop being afraid of losing things—jobs, friendships, opportunities—because you understand that nothing truly meant for you can ever be lost. You stop hesitating to express yourself because you know that if your intentions are pure, you will always be guided toward the right people and places.

On the flip side, when you do things just to get something in return, you shrink. You get caught in calculations. You lose sight of the bigger picture. It’s like staring at a single drop of water while ignoring the entire ocean. And the crazy thing? When you stop worrying about the outcome, things actually start happening in your favor. Doors open. Opportunities appear. The right people walk into your life. Not because you forced it, but because you let go.

Success, real success, isn’t something you measure. It’s not about how much money you make or how many people recognize your name. Success is expansion. It’s that ripple effect—how your energy, your kindness, your willingness to uplift others spreads far beyond what you can see. It’s how people remember how they felt in your presence.

So what’s the takeaway here? Stop keeping score. Stop tying every action to an expectation. Just act. Just do. Just be. And trust that the universe already has everything in place for you. The more you let go, the more everything falls exactly where it’s meant to be.